Early Ejaculation

Climaxing too quickly is one of the most common sexual problems that can affect men of any age.

A man often feels embarrassed when he "comes too fast". This problem not only creates negative emotions, but can even test otherwise solid relationships. It can destroy a man's confidence and sexually frustrate his partner. In single life, premature ejaculation could spell the end of a great relationship. In married life, it could be discouraging to both mates, as many men are considerate lovers and actually want to please their partner

What is early ejaculation?

The clinical description of early ejaculation includes both the loss of the man's control in early sexual stages as well as after penetration. In the 1950s sex researchers including Masters and Johnson defined early ejaculation "as when a man ejaculates before a woman's orgasm in more than 50% of sexual encounters". Other researchers said that the term was only applicable if a man ejaculated within two minutes of penetration.

Today the condition generally refers to any kind of ejaculatory loss of control that can lead to sexual or emotional problems between partners. This condition is common in younger men, though it can affect men of all ages. Younger men usually have problems with early ejaculation that are learned through masturbation. Teenagers' sexual experiences are often rushed, whether due to the fear of getting caught or simply over enthusiasm for what seems to be at the time, the most important thing in the world. Thus this conditioning teaches a young body to ejaculate as soon as possible, which carries on into adulthood.

Other reasons for the condition could include anxiety, inhibition or even relationship problems. Nervous feelings can also contribute to a "fast trigger." Many people enjoy drinking alcoholic beverages as a way to relax and lose their inhibitions -- but in doing so, actually lose control over their sexual functioning.

No Quick-Fix

Individuals may try self-prescribed remedies. The remedies may consist of distraction techniques, weird physical tips or anesthetic crèmes which are essentially useless. These methods will either not work or will take the fun out of sex. Antidepressants are also a questionable way to treat earl ejaculation as such powerful drugs can create unpleasant side effects. Solutions like these are not real treatments.

Since early ejaculation is usually a psychological problem, the best avenue is to seek the professional advice of a sexuality counselor. A sex counselor can teach you ways to control early ejaculation. This knowledge will provide you with effective tools to help you resolve the problem. Education on how to control your body, your penis, your desire and finally your climax will ensure long-term results.

Therapy stresses education over distraction. It is useful knowledge that you can keep for the rest of your life. Techniques introduced in therapy have included relaxation and kinesthetic practices, learning to work the PC muscles, and a variety of other time-proven methods.

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