Penis Size

A recent poll suggested that more men are afraid of their penis being too small than they are of death. This illustrates the "penis panic" that occurs when worried men wonder if they should get penile surgery or enlargement pulls to increase the size of their penis.

Many men think the size of their penis is equated with their strength and virility. Men are competitive creatures by nature and so it seems characteristic that they would pass along exaggerated stories, discuss unbelievable sightings, and spread urban myths about how big they really are. As for what women want?

How Big Should I Be?

How big should a man's penis be? The average size of a fully erect penis measured from the top of the head back to the groin is about 5 or 6 inches. The Journal of Urology as well as Lifestyles Condoms recently reported the average to be five inches or slightly higher.

If a man is experiencing penis panic over the fact that he's not a ten-inch monster, then he is stressing over nothing. Most men are not gigantic down there, just like most men are not pushing seven feet in height. A small penis can satisfy a woman with great pleasure since the tip of the penis will probably fit perfectly with the location of her G-spot.

Aesthetics and Pleasure

As far as looks go, the size of the penis is practically the last thing a woman ever notices about a man, unless you are living in a nudist colony. Usually women admire the external features of a man, including his body shape, grooming, hairstyle and hands. It is during intimacy that a woman begins to admire the internal features--like personality, background, sense of humor and charm.

How about during sex? Isn't penis size the most important thing in sexual intercourse? No, the most important thing in sexual intercourse is the sex--the entire experience, from flirting to foreplay to penetration and afterglow. Anatomically speaking, a woman's vagina is a very elastic organ and can accommodate the small just as easily as the large. The most sensitive nerve endings are closer to the outside of the vagina, so an averagely endowed man is more than capable of hitting her hot spots.

A women who has regular orgasms will admit that it's not the size of a man's penis that matters, but the way in which he uses it--just like his hands, just like his lips and all other parts of his body. Bringing a woman to orgasm requires a skilled, enduring and patient lover.

Some women may find the idea of a large penis arousing, but it's mostly sexual trivia. Even if a woman personally finds the idea of a giant penis the best thing in the world, a lack of sexual skills will still ultimately disappoint her. The key to becoming a great lover is in education not size.

The Cure

The "cure" here is to stop worrying about size and start compensating with your amazing sexual skills. Enhance your body image and let the world love you for who you are. Improving your sexual skills is good practice for increasing your self esteem. If you don't know how to do this then sex therapy can help you. Sexual education can teach you how to maintain an erection, how to pleasure your partner and how to improve your sex life regardless of penis size

If the erection loss is believed to be a physical problem, a doctor would be contacted for the best treatment advice. However, if the erection loss is psychological, then seek professional assistance. Your sex life doesn't have to be disappointing. Sex can be an exciting, all-night-long affair if you really want it that way.

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